I have a grief counselor that I have mentioned before.  She is awesome.  One thing she does is open my eyes beyond me, beyond my situation.  Not only does she help me with my feelings but she also helps me see how others feel.  She gives me words on what to say and actions on how I can help them.  She tells me what I have done correctly and what I haven’t.

I also have a friend that is like this too.  She isn’t hesitant to say, “Now Misti, maybe it is because of this?” They both are willing to speak the truth even though they know it may bring pain.

How can these two share with me and help me have a “view beyond myself?” One because I want them to be second because I know they care about me. One thing about having someone to help you see beyond you is you have to have developed a trusting caring relationship. Both of these women have been there and been present.  They have shown up when no one else has.  They have been open and honest and helped me muddle through the deep waters.

Do you have someone to help you view beyond yourself?


Last week in our bible study, 52 characters of the bible, we were focusing on David.  David had a trusted adviser Nathan.  Nathan was a prophet of God.  He was a fearless but careful confronter.  He was a trustworthy companion that wasn’t afraid to speak the truth.  God chose Nathan to communicate with David for Him.

Nathan taught David through a parable.

2 Samuel 12:1-7 New International Version (NIV)

Nathan Rebukes David

12 The Lord sent Nathan to David. When he came to him, he said, “There were two men in a certain town, one rich and the other poor. 2 The rich man had a very large number of sheep and cattle, 3 but the poor man had nothing except one little ewe lamb he had bought. He raised it, and it grew up with him and his children. It shared his food, drank from his cup and even slept in his arms. It was like a daughter to him.

4 “Now a traveler came to the rich man, but the rich man refrained from taking one of his own sheep or cattle to prepare a meal for the traveler who had come to him. Instead, he took the ewe lamb that belonged to the poor man and prepared it for the one who had come to him.”

5 David burned with anger against the man and said to Nathan, “As surely as the Lord lives, the man who did this must die! 6 He must pay for that lamb four times over, because he did such a thing and had no pity.”

7 Then Nathan said to David, “You are the man! This is what the Lord, the God of Israel, says: ‘I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul.

Through this parable, Nathan helped David see his wrongdoings.  Many times we can’t see wrongdoings, and many times we will lie to ourselves.

Not only should we be a Nathan, but we should have a Nathan.  We should help others stay accountable, and we should be made responsible.

My love for music always sends me to a song that relates to my 3 Little Words.  One of my favorite hymns is Open My Eyes, So I May See by Clara Scott.

The text of “Open My Eyes” was written in 1895 shortly before Scott’s death. Each stanza reveals an increasing receptiveness to the “Spirit divine.”

  • Open eyes lead to “glimpses of truth. (Jesus gave sight to the blind man at the Pool of Siloam in John 9)
  • Open ears lead to “voices of truth.” (Matthew often reprises the theme, “Who hath ears to hear, let him hear.” Matthew 13:15)
  • An open mouth leads to sharing the “warm truth everywhere.” (Psalm 51:15 exhorts us: O Lord, open thou my lips; and my mouth shall show forth thy praise.”)
  • An open heart leads to sharing “love to thy children.” (Jesus asks in Matthew 9:4, “Wherefore think ye evil in your hearts?” But Jesus also realized that the heart has the capacity for purity: “Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God” (Matthew 5:8).)

This hymn reminds us how we must open our eyes and look inwards at times to become the best version of what God wants us to be.

God provides two safeguards against self-deception His word and true friends.

Do you go to His word every day?  Do you have those people that through their eyes, their mouths and their hearts your ears can hear what you need to hear?  Do you have a Nathan?  Are you a Nathan?

You need someone, and someone needs you to help us see beyond ourselves.


  • Keep your daily appointment
  • Dive deep into the word
  • Find a Nathan and be a Nathan
  • Fill your cup with Christ so you can fill other cups


  1. Open my eyes, that I may see

Glimpses of truth Thou hast for me;

Place in my hands the wonderful key

That shall unclasp and set me free.

o    Refrain 1:

Silently now I wait for Thee,

Ready my God, Thy will to see,

Open my eyes, illumine me,

Spirit divine!

  1. Open my ears, that I may hear

Voices of truth Thou sendest clear;

And while the wave notes fall on my ear,

Everything false will disappear.

o    Refrain 2:

Silently now I wait for Thee,

Ready my God, Thy will to see,

Open my ears, illumine me,

Spirit divine!

  1. Open my mind, that I may read

More of Thy love in word and deed;

What shall I fear while yet Thou dost lead?

Only for light from Thee I plead.

o    Refrain 3:

Silently now I wait for Thee,

Ready my God, Thy will to see,

Open my mind, illumine me,

Spirit divine!

  1. Open my mouth, and let me bear,

Gladly the warm truth everywhere;

Open my heart and let me prepare

Love with Thy children thus to share.

o    Refrain 4:

Silently now I wait for Thee,

Ready my God, Thy will to see,

Open my heart, illumine me,

Spirit divine!